In the last few weeks, I have been a bit sad (okay, let me be honest, it was kind of a meltdown, and I might have cried a little bit:) because of my frustrations with some of my friendships.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I am a highly emotional person, and this reminds me of my own story. About a year ago, I tried to build a friendship with someone, despite facing many setbacks along the way. However, a few months ago, everything fell apart, and I realized that it had always been a one-sided relationship. I trusted this person deeply, but they never truly saw me as a friend. Whenever I wanted to do something together, they would always tell me, "You can go and do it by yourself."
Afterward, I felt a deep pain in my heart. Friendship, in my opinion, is like shopping—not just one side gives encouragement or support, tolerance; both sides need to show equal care. If it turns toxic, distancing ourselves and setting boundaries can help protect our hearts. From my perspective, every friendship has an expiration date. This date might come from unmet expectations, unresolved issues, or even the end of life itself.
When someone is no longer part of our lives, we must learn to make peace with it, despite everything that has happened in the past.
Sıdıka, I am trying to feel empathy for you as much as I can, and I would say that as a highly emotional person, emotions are part of our lives and it identifies who we are now, and also, we can't bottle up our feelings whatever we experience. Just we should know how to regulate our emotions. It could take time, but okay. Wishing you a wonderful day :)
I am struggling with understanding of friendships like you. Especially after moving to the UK feels like I lost my friends in Turkey like old pages in a book which will never be opened. Anyway accepting this is a good step, though 😌
Lowering your expectations will make you feel less disappointmented. Everyone has a world within, different colors different materials, different structures. This makes it harder to match our definitions, as we develop ourselves and our perception of our world change accordingly and that is ok. We all move and change, and sometimes we do in different directions and that is absolutely normal. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Have a nice Sunday Sıdıka and thanls for sharing with us.
First off all, thank you so much for sharing your opinions and feelings transparently with us :) I feel so much like myself while reading this, it is so worth for me.. what a nice start to December!
I ve been in the hospital due to my sons' illness for a few days and recognised that one my friends didnt call me or messaged me his / her wishes although he knows that we are in hospital. and I'm quite sure that i will reevaluate my friendship accordingly. In that case maybe the person has a different understanding from a friendship, or it doesnt make so much sense to him, but I really dont care, i will continue to be friends only with people think and care the same way as i do. Thanks for sharing as always.
People have different priorities. I can totally get your frustration, but before ending the friendship, just remember that your friend may be going through something difficult at the same time. Just a thought ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing it with us. It is really important to understand our opinions and needs from friendship. Building strong, healthy friendships is a skill we all need to learn. Thanks to your knowledge and experience I think I can do it. I love you Sidika. Thank you for encouraging us. 😊
Hello there Sidika, again, thanks for sharing this. I guess everyone goes through this stage in their lives and just like you said, easier said then done :/ I’m 48, I’m still struggling to cope with this idea of being left out, being not picked, not called by my really closest friends. I can’t get over this “not everything’s about you” phrase. I guess I need to make peace with this idea of “it’s ok to be left out” at times. I understand that people have their own lives, their own ups and downs but I still would value a few of my dearest friends as top priority…well I guess they wouldn’t…hard truth to learn, accept and grasp…will take time…good luck to all.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I am a highly emotional person, and this reminds me of my own story. About a year ago, I tried to build a friendship with someone, despite facing many setbacks along the way. However, a few months ago, everything fell apart, and I realized that it had always been a one-sided relationship. I trusted this person deeply, but they never truly saw me as a friend. Whenever I wanted to do something together, they would always tell me, "You can go and do it by yourself."
Afterward, I felt a deep pain in my heart. Friendship, in my opinion, is like shopping—not just one side gives encouragement or support, tolerance; both sides need to show equal care. If it turns toxic, distancing ourselves and setting boundaries can help protect our hearts. From my perspective, every friendship has an expiration date. This date might come from unmet expectations, unresolved issues, or even the end of life itself.
When someone is no longer part of our lives, we must learn to make peace with it, despite everything that has happened in the past.
Sıdıka, I am trying to feel empathy for you as much as I can, and I would say that as a highly emotional person, emotions are part of our lives and it identifies who we are now, and also, we can't bottle up our feelings whatever we experience. Just we should know how to regulate our emotions. It could take time, but okay. Wishing you a wonderful day :)
Your comment melted my heart:) Sorry to hear that you lost your friends, but everything happens for a reason:)
I am struggling with understanding of friendships like you. Especially after moving to the UK feels like I lost my friends in Turkey like old pages in a book which will never be opened. Anyway accepting this is a good step, though 😌
I feel you:( Friends can grow apart, unfortunately. Accepting this can help us open ourselves to new friendships.
Lowering your expectations will make you feel less disappointmented. Everyone has a world within, different colors different materials, different structures. This makes it harder to match our definitions, as we develop ourselves and our perception of our world change accordingly and that is ok. We all move and change, and sometimes we do in different directions and that is absolutely normal. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Have a nice Sunday Sıdıka and thanls for sharing with us.
Absolutely! But again, easier said than done🥲 still working on it🙃
First off all, thank you so much for sharing your opinions and feelings transparently with us :) I feel so much like myself while reading this, it is so worth for me.. what a nice start to December!
We are all in the same boat💫
I ve been in the hospital due to my sons' illness for a few days and recognised that one my friends didnt call me or messaged me his / her wishes although he knows that we are in hospital. and I'm quite sure that i will reevaluate my friendship accordingly. In that case maybe the person has a different understanding from a friendship, or it doesnt make so much sense to him, but I really dont care, i will continue to be friends only with people think and care the same way as i do. Thanks for sharing as always.
People have different priorities. I can totally get your frustration, but before ending the friendship, just remember that your friend may be going through something difficult at the same time. Just a thought ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing it with us. It is really important to understand our opinions and needs from friendship. Building strong, healthy friendships is a skill we all need to learn. Thanks to your knowledge and experience I think I can do it. I love you Sidika. Thank you for encouraging us. 😊
Thank you for your kind comment:)
Hello there Sidika, again, thanks for sharing this. I guess everyone goes through this stage in their lives and just like you said, easier said then done :/ I’m 48, I’m still struggling to cope with this idea of being left out, being not picked, not called by my really closest friends. I can’t get over this “not everything’s about you” phrase. I guess I need to make peace with this idea of “it’s ok to be left out” at times. I understand that people have their own lives, their own ups and downs but I still would value a few of my dearest friends as top priority…well I guess they wouldn’t…hard truth to learn, accept and grasp…will take time…good luck to all.